SoulMates

When & Where

Friday, March 28, 7-9pm & Saturday, March 29, 9am-4pm at Reclamation Church. Childcare will be available on Friday if needed.

Cost

$175 per couple. Cost includes conference, Strength Deployment Inventory, and lunch. 

Overall Aim

Help couples discover the unique ways their souls were created to work together in God’s love and develop a customized action plan for their marriage based on a blueprint of their motivations, conflict patterns, strengths, and communication styles.

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Meet Del & Debra Fehsenfeld, the SoulMates Facilitators

Del and Debra are both marriage and family therapists with years of experience guiding people toward growth and transformation. They are also certified in the Strength Deployment Inventory which is a powerful tool to increase relational intelligence, get better at conflict resolution, and deal with core issues spiritually. Del and Debra have been married for 29 years, and are the proud parents of Shepard, Kária, Chálissa, and Sol.

Content Playbook

SoulMates combines gospel-based biblical soul wisdom from Three Passions of the Soul and Relational Intelligence wisdom from the Strength Deployment Inventory (SDI) through 7 key experiential learning activities that catalyze awareness, insight, and adaptation (the content is divided into five modules that are 1.5 -2 hours each).

Friday Evening (module 1): Your Why Explains Your What Part 1: Biblical foundations: made from love, through love, for love Part 2: Motivations shape perceptions

Saturday (module 2): Conflict Changes the Game Part 1: Explore Your Conflict Sequence Part 2: Your Conflict Journey

Saturday (module 3): Discover Your Strengths Part 1: Understanding Your Strengths Portrait Part 2: How I See It

Saturday (module 4): Don’t Overdo It! Part 1: The Shadow Side of Overdone Strengths Part 2: Managing Conflict Triggers and Soul Fuel

Saturday (module 5): Communicate For Connection Part 1: How We Listen

Theological Background for SoulMates

SoulMates is rooted in a biblical understanding of relationships and the soul. Because God is love, He made us in his image through love, for love, and to love. Only God’s perfect love can satisfy the three passions of the soul for acceptance, significance, and security that shape behavior. The story of sin is a story of distrust of God and substitution for a relationship with Him. We will be disappointed when we look to anything or anyone, including marriage, for what God alone can provide. The gospel is God’s ultimate expression of perfect love that penetrates our misdirected desires and heals us through deeper and deeper levels of repentance and faith, freeing us to love transformatively in our marriage. Here is a link to Life Action’s statement of faith.

How it Works

By utilizing a proven assessment tool called the Strength Deployment Inventory (SDI), couples will gain insights into their motivations, conflict patterns, strengths, and communication styles. This knowledge will reveal their relationship’s unique blueprint and transform their marriage when combined with practical tools to enhance their relational IQ.

How it’s Different from Other Marriage Conferences

It starts with a world-class assessment that takes couples on a journey of discovery and equips them with proven strategies to increase their relationship IQ and the effectiveness of their marriage. As an experiential course, they’ll learn by doing and gain an enhanced understanding of how relationships work through personalized, practical, and fun exercises. They’ll leave with a customized action plan, ongoing access to personalized results, and additional relationship tools with a free SoulMates app.

Participants will NOT be asked to share personal information

Rest assured, SoulMates prioritizes the comfort and privacy of attendees. Our interactive and experiential approach fosters growth without requiring public disclosure of personal details or participation in awkward or embarrassing situations, ensuring a safe and respectful environment for all participants.

Who It's For

SoulMates is beneficial for all kinds of couples. Whether you're seriously dating, newly married, happily married, coasting, struggling, or looking to mentor other couples, SoulMates is for you.

  • If you are seriously dating or preparing for marriage, it will give you a strong foundation for a thriving marriage.
  • If you are newly married, it will help you figure things out and put things together.
  • If your marriage is good, it will help you enrich and strengthen it and take it to a higher level than you thought possible.
  • If your marriage is struggling, it will help you get unstuck, resolve conflict, and promote understanding and hope.
  • If your marriage is coasting, it will be a jumpstart for connection, growth, and new energy.
  • If you want to be equipped to help other couples, it will help you understand and practically mentor other couples.
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